I don’t know if it is an age and stage thing, or what, but I seem to have a lot of similar discussions with the people around me about evaluating where they are in life versus where they want to go. My first question is always, “Well, what do you want?” The response I usually get starts with, “I don’t know…” and is followed up with a laundry list of vague and nebulous possibilities and generally ends with a sigh and resigned admission that they just don’t want to be exactly where they are now.

It is easy, in our youth, to see the possibilities in life and to imagine ourselves fully participating in each and every one of them. It is much harder to do that once we’ve grown to adulthood. We’ve got jobs to do, bills to pay, homes to clean and repair, relationships to foster, some of us have spouses and kids to look after. While there is a LOT to be grateful for in that list (we have a job, and electricity, and homes and relationships and family) it can feel, sometimes, like the choices we’ve made have bound us to some degree to one small piece of the pie that we once imagined.

It is the feeling of being weighed down that can stagnate the heart and spirit. Once that feeling really sets in it can be extremely difficult to see life through any other lens, especially one where other opportunities are available to you, because that feeling has changed the underlying belief system about what is really available for the taking.

It is important to understand that ALL opportunities are available to you. Maybe some are more desirable than others, but they’re all out there waiting like patient students to be called upon. The problem is however, that as the head of the classroom, many people spend so much time glancing back and forth between these willing students, hemming and hawing and never really choosing one. This means that none of them has a chance to stand up and be heard.

So, I propose that you stop vacillating about your options and pick one. If you’re a student of mine, one of the changes you’re instituting in your life is learning to trade in the Foreign Exchange market.

You have to understand by choosing this opportunity you have to commit to it. You have to know what you want from the experience and it is not going to work if all you want is to make money. You have to want to learn. You have to want to grow. You have to want the change in routine. You have to want the business plan and the practice and the dedication to enter your life through this endeavor.

If you don’t really want all of those things and secretly your deep-down supplications just want everything to stay the same in life except you want some simple little thing on the side (in this case we’re talking about money, but it could easily be learning a new language/skill or traveling or whatever you’ve chosen) then you will continue to fight an uphill battle in your new endeavor.

You have to know what you want in order to make your choice. If you think you’re not choosing, trust me you are…you’re merely choosing to not change and grow.

It is through the choice we make to institute change and through the devotion to the process of that change that we can ultimately develop everything we need to institute that change: desire, choice, practice, then the penultimate… belief. Once we believe that we can do it, we open the pathways in our mind and spirit to make that change possible. Then, and only then, does it all become natural and second nature to who we are.

What do you REALLY want? What change are you willing to devote yourself to in order to get it?